Alright, I’m back with another post about being single. And while today’s topic is one that I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined I’d be posting online for the whole wide world to see, I’m feeling spontaneous and going for it. Partly because:
1. I’ve been asked the same question three times in the last week, and probably 100+ times since beginning this series — “Well what are you looking for in a guy nowadays?”
2. It’s been awhile since I’ve really sat down and thought through my answer, as it evolves a bit from year to year.
3. I think it would be quite spectacular to have this URL printed out on business cards to whip out super-fast ninja-style when someone asks the question. Boom.
So here’s my “list” on January 23, 2014. It’s probably a slightly different list than I would have given a year ago. Definitely a different list than 10 years ago. And I have no doubt that as time goes on, it will continue to evolve still. But at least for today, here’s my description for what I’m looking for in a guy (or a husband).
Today we are kicking off a new series on the blog called “I’ve Learned”, in which people share 10 things – any 10 things — that they have learned in life. I have been looking forward to launching this for months, mostly because I’m just completely curious and excited to hear what people will have to say. There may be a sprinkling of bloggers in this series. But mostly I will be interviewing friends and people in my community who I love and admire and would love to learn from.
When dreaming about this series, my friend Michelle was always the first person who came to mind. So I was thrilled that she agreed to go first. Those who know Michelle know that she is a total “learner” herself in all of the best ways. She’s curious, she’s reads (a lot), she’s incredibly active with her neighborhood and community, she travels, and she spends time building relationships with all sorts of great people. She’s also someone who quite simply does a lot of good in life. She has built a career upon teaching and developing programs for adults learning English, which she does with a lot of heart and dedication and creativity. But while she would never mention it, she’s also constantly spending her spare time with those who might need an extra hand or tutor or volunteering. Basically, Michelle is one of those people who’s making the world a better place day by day in her own cool way. And I think she’s pretty great. And I also think it’s very great that I get to count her a friend.
I’m the first to admit that I’m not the best at sticking with new year’s resolutions. Heck, I even fell off the bandwagon multiple times with my three December Daily goals this past month, like, starting on Day 3. I know.
By contrast though, I’ve found the idea of choosing a word of the year — One Little Word, as one of my favorite bloggers calls it — to be a really meaningful, life-giving and do-able exercise in my life. I actually love everything about it — the time reflecting and choosing your word, sharing your word with friends (and inviting them to share theirs), and then hopefully letting it help guide and shape your life over the coming year. It’s a resolution-free exercise, which for better or worse translates to guilt-free for me, and ends up being much more motivational. Last year a group of friends and I all shared our words together on New Year’s Eve, and it ended up being a wonderful conversation.
After having spent the month of December in Europe last year, it was fun to be back home with my family in Wichita this Christmas. My sister and brother in law were in town from Chicago, my pup was looking very merry for the occasion, and we were all looking forward to celebrating one of our favorite holidays together.
But this year, our family actually decided to do things a little differently and take a few new Christmas traditions for a little “test run”.
Time for another Stitch Fix review! Man, this is now my fourth month with Stitch Fix, and I feel like the fixes are starting to come quickly! I mean, don’t get me wrong — it’s totally fun to have those little teal boxes with brand new clothes show up on my doorstep. But I also don’t really need many more clothes, you know? Hmmm, I’m considering some changes for 2014.
But for now, this month’s fix was actually a bit of a flop. I ended up only keeping one piece that I purchased with referral credits. But as you’ll read below, I was even on the fence about that one. The other pieces were all definite no’s for one reason or another. Bummer, because I really liked a few of them.
Happy holidays, everyone!! I’m back with another post in my series on being single. And since this time of the year can sometimes be a bit of a downer for singles, I thought we’d lighten the mood with the topic that never fails to entertain — online dating photos.
These are the energy bars I usually buy from (yes, my favorite store) ALDI.
Somehow I have found myself in conversations with friends multiple times this past month about how to respond when someone on the street asks you for money. Now that I live downtown, and go for daily walks, and run most of my errands around the neighborhood, I find myself walking by or being approached by someone asking for money pretty much daily. And it can be confusing or awkward to know what the “right” thing to do is, right?
I’m always interested to hear about my friends’ experiences and advice on the topic. Most people I know always want to give and to “help”. But knowing what is actually “helping” can be tricky to navigate. (And I probably can’t and shouldn’t judge that anyway.)
Happy December, everyone! I hope that you all had a warm and merry Thanksgiving. (And to my Jewish friends, I hope that you had a blast celebrating the a once-in-a-lifetime — or really, once-in-79,000-lifetimes! – Thanksgivukkah. So cool!!)
I spent most of my holiday week at home with family in Wichita, and then came home to celebrate Friendsgiving back in KC. And then I woke up with the rest of the world this morning, and – poof! — it was somehow December. I know that everyone has been talking about how short the holiday season would be this year, but I don’t think I realized until today just how short that time would really be! Better get Buddy The Elf and Clark Griswold on rotation stat.
Alright, it’s officially three days before Thanksgiving, and my “man of the house” is still a 4-legged, tail-wagging Morkie. Although his manliness is probably a little bit in question, being that he went in for another little Hallmark dog audition last week and they dressed him up as…(ahem)…a girl! I think he rocked it, but he’s now back to happily sporting his favorite Chiefs sweater. ;)
Well, there are no two-legged guys in the picture right now either. So unless Prince Charming swoops in before Thursday, it looks like I will be single for the holidays yet again. And based on a handful of emails and conversations I have had with all you single ladies and guys after starting this series, it sounds like “the most wonderful time of the year” is unanimously one of the toughest times of the year for single folk, if not the toughest. Not always. But often.